Hi, I’m Bailey.

I have been living my life the past 4 years with the philosophy of being a yes girl. I have said yes to every opportunity, every trip, every adventure that felt good to me at the time. Now, while that has led me on some amazing, life changing adventures…

I have also found myself in some precarious situations along the way.

It’s not all been sunshine and rainbows. But it has been the trip of a lifetime. And I’m looking forward to sharing it with you.

This is not a PG story. Consider yourself warned.

Let’s go back to 4 years ago. I had just broken up with my boyfriend of 2.5 yrs. That decision was a long time coming, and it was the hardest decision I ever made. We both had so much love for each other but at the end of the day, we just wanted to live different lifestyles and do different things with our lives. So we split.

That day may have been the singular hardest day of my life. But I knew in my heart I needed to move on.

*Spoiler Alert* Yes, this is the boyfriend that I am with again now. We got back together 10 months ago after being apart for over 3 yrs (and we’re really happy) <3.

So here I am, freshly 23 years old. Never been single as an adult. Never explored her sexuality or even considered it for half a second. Deeply shy and insecure. Very introverted.

Whatever the opposite of outgoing is, I was it.

Working as a receptionist at a skin spa. Moving back in with my dad.

No money. No confidence. Basically nothing to my name other than my car and some debt. Nice.

Although this was one of the darkest, most emotionally challenging times of my life, I always knew that it was the right path. I felt it in my soul.

I started to pick up the pieces after giving myself time to process and grieve. I was going to Reiki. I was getting out with my friends. I got back in the gym. I was working on myself, and things started to turn around.

I got a new job that I was really excited about that just fell into my lap.

I started my onlyfans. I was pushing the comfort zone.

I remember when I launched my onlyfans, in the first week (it was Christmas Day, I’ll never forget), I made $1500. Just on onlyfans. That was the most money I had ever seen in one week before.

I was on cloud 9.

I ended up quitting my job only a few months later because I was making the same amount of money on onlyfans in only a few hours a week as I was at my 40hr/week job. So I thought, why am I working so much with no potential to make more when I could just put all my energy into onlyfans and have uncapped growth potential?..

Looking back, I want to say I have no regrets, but there’s definitely things I wish I did differently, and quitting that job was one of them. But c’est la vie. Hindsight is always 20/20 right?

Throughout this time of getting on onlyfans and pursuing it full time, I also started to explore my sexuality. Now, you must understand how wild of a decision onlyfans was for me at the time.

Maybe a year or two pre onlyfans, I had a panic attack in a strip club because I was so deeply uncomfortable with not only my own but everyone else’s displays of sexuality. So exploring my own was a huge step in self acceptance and understanding.

I wasn’t the most insecure girl in terms of my body but I definitely wasn’t the most confident either. Onlyfans gave me confidence that I never thought I would be capable of having. And for that I am grateful. It really changed the way I saw myself because I got to see myself through the lens of those who were supporting me there. And duhhh, they loved me. I could do no wrong.

This feels like a good time to say this…

I am by no means saying that anyone else should get into the sex work industry.

It is a slippery slope as you will learn throughout the rest of my story. I don’t regret entering the sex work industry because it’s made me the person I am today, but I definitely do NOT recommend it and I want that to be clear.

Moving on..

After a couple months of doing onlyfans full time I ended up moving downtown at the beginning of the summer with my best friend. I had absolutely no business moving from being rent free at my dad’s house to taking on $2k a month in rent and extra bills but FUCK IT WE BALL. 

I was a yes girl. It’s what I wanted. And I somehow made it happen.

That was probably-no, definitely the most unhinged summer of my life. I started drinking a lot, partying all the time, barely working on my OF anymore.. I have no idea how I didn’t miss a rent payment. I was just living off of whiteclaws, allo vapes, and a prayer at that point.

Once that summer ended I decided it was time to clean it up and get my shit together as I was borderline becoming an alcoholic. I stopped drinking and going out. I got back to the gym. I was working on my OF again, and then my birthday rolled around in October.

I wasn’t making as much money on OF as I was before because I neglected it all summer long so I had my eye out for more ways to make money.

Since starting onlyfans I had made a few friends in the industry, some of which were working in person as well as online. Dancing at private parties.

I had honestly never heard much about it before but I could imagine what that entailed. I really had not a fucking clue what I was in for. But I was a yes girl. So when I was presented with an opportunity to make more money, I took it.

Next thing I knew I was headed to this party on the night of my 24th birthday with one of my industry friends. She made it sound easy enough. Show up to this party, wear lingerie, look hot, dance around, get paid.

I had already spent all summer shaking ass for free so why not make some money too? Onlyfans wasn’t making enough to pay my bills anymore and this was an instant solution.

That first party was amazing. The guys were nice, respectful, generous. I danced around a bit, chatted with them, and left with a pocket full of cash. I got home that night and dumped out my purse to count my money. I had made just over $1k in 4 hours just to do a bit of dancing and socializing. I didn’t even get naked. I was hooked.

Looking back on that night, I really lucked out on how easy that party was, how nice the guys were, and how much money I made for not doing much. I thought it would always be like that.

Newsflash. It’s not.

It’s been 3 years since then and I have worked MANY parties. I have had some really amazing stripper fantasy money falling from the sky moments. And some really terrifying, uncomfortable, haunting, soul crushing moments too.

Like I said, it’s made me who I am today and I am forever grateful for that. I don’t want to focus on the bad. But I also want to get it across to you that my time in the sex work industry has not been a walk in the park.

It has, however, served a massive purpose in my life. It has brought me so many amazing things. Experiences, money, travel, freedom. Growth.

And now I’m in a place where I’m looking for a new chapter. A new source of income so I can leave this industry behind. To start something I’m actually passionate about, and that really aligns with who I am and what I want to do in this world. Something that brings me fulfillment and joy.

Because the sex work industry was never it. It was never in alignment with my soul.

And I haven’t shared much of my story recently because I don’t want to be known as that Onlyfans girl anymore. I don’t want to be seen as that stripper girl anymore. Because it’s not who I am.

So I have held back from sharing.

But holding back from sharing isn’t who I am either.

Now I realize that it’s a huge part of my story. And just because something is a part of your story doesn’t mean it has to define who you are.

I trust that the right people, my people, will see that.

Although sex work may not be in alignment with who I am, sharing my life too much on the internet is. So here you have it.

This is the story of a girl who got caught up in an industry that didn’t feed her soul or ignite her passion, and now she’s on a quest to find fulfillment and purpose.

This doesn’t mean I will stop my yes girl tendencies, but I will have more direction and purpose behind that which I say yes to.

Thank you for being here, truly it means the world.

I am so excited about this new blog and I can’t wait to share so much more with you.

xo Bailey